Thursday, 9 May 2013

Whose Identity?


        “The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy, I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows.”  John 10:10

This morning I actually got up about 7.30 am, instead of giving in to my habit of going back to bed until 8.30 am or 9.00 am.  I thought about how I could use the time wisely—writing, sewing, praying.  So, with a mug of hot coffee, I sat down and turned on the computer. 

Wouldn’t you know it, I looked up and it was 11.30 am!  What happened?  The temptation to play an on-line match-three game was too strong; I allowed “The Thief” to steal over two hours of precious time.  To say the least, I was disappointed with myself. 

Each year, New Wine Ministries hosts a Women’s Day.  (http://www.new-wine.org). This year it was held Saturday, 27th April 2013 at Jesus House for all the Nations near Brent Cross in London.  (http://jesushouse.org.uk).  

This past year I’ve been feeling tired, lethargic—even bereft.  I recognised this empty condition, as it seems each time I have booked to go to a retreat or ministry day, the Lord makes sure that my emotional condition feels desperate and my spiritual condition is hungry, thirsty, and empty.  This means I am in a perfect position of openness before Him. 

Christy Wimber, (daughter-in-law of the late John Wimber) from Yorba Linda Vineyard Church in California spoke in the main meeting.  Christy spoke on trusting God in the midst of transition.  Transition times can be and often are difficult times, painful, uncomfortable and sometimes desperate.  Facing change is a perfect opportunity to fear, because of the unknown.  We wrongly believe if we can control our situations, we will be secure.  In truth, living in fear comes from not believing and trusting God to give us everything we need. 

Carrying what we are not meant to carry can keep us from prospering in God’s will for our lives.  The burdens we unnecessarily carry become like an overloaded rucksack, chaffing painfully as it rubs against us.  The amazing thing about the human body is that during pain, it will shift in an attempt to alleviate the pain.  Our walk can become impaired, our progress slowed down.  If we can, we take medication to quiet the pain.  If we ignore the problem, and just keep taking the medicine, the numbing agent becomes less effective, and we need to take more.  We get to the point we exist, but don’t truly live. 

For me, the New Wine Women’s Day was a day for me to stop, take off the rucksack and ask God what was in it that I needed to lay aside. 

Christine sensed that many ladies were numbing themselves—with alcohol, or food, or other avoidance behaviours.  She invited the women who had been numbing their emotions and minds to come to the front for prayer.  Suddenly I knew that wasting hours playing on-line games was a mind-numbing behaviour.  So, up I went forward—ignoring Satan’s jibe; “What will the ladies with you think?”.  “They love me—shut up and go away.” I told him. 

What was I trying to carry?  My heart was breaking—thinking about my Mom and sister.   Before I was married, Mom was “The Person to Whom I Belonged.”  I am grieving that I can no longer just ring her up and chat.  I am sad that the full responsibility of caring for Mom falls on my sister, who has her own set of medical problems.  As I was being prayed for, the Lord spoke; “Your Mom is not suffering, she isn’t uncomfortable.  Her times are in My hands.” 

Since I was about thirteen years old, I have aspired to be a writer.  On Saturday, 27th April I realised the bereft feeling in my heart was tied to my desire for Mom to know I had succeeded.  But now that I couldn’t show her and share with her any accomplished goals, I was subconsciously questioning why I should continue to pursue the goal.  Therefore motivation to write was being hindered. 

Equally, I was tying my sense of identity to my Mom.  It hurts to not have her available mentally, physically, and spiritually.  To watch endless hours of television, play games on-line or on my desk-top, over-eat and not take care of myself was trying to avoid the pain of not being able to control my Mom’s and Sister’s situation.  Satan loves to taunt me with wicked thoughts—“You should be able to do more;” “What’s going to happen to Sissy when Mom is gone?”; “Just give up—it’s took late for you to make your Mom proud.” 

The prayer (on the 27th) was soothing—the Father pulling me close, letting me know that Mom and Sissy are in His loving care.  The truth is, my identity needs to be solely and solidly established as being His child; His Beloved, the Apple of His eye.  My motivation to write is not out of love for my mom, not out of love for writing, not out of trying to prove my worth.  My motivation to write needs to be based on obedience in response to His great love for me. 

So what was this morning’s episode all about?  It was a tactic of Satan to distract me.  Maybe, if I panicked after realising just how much time was gone, I would give up the idea of spending time in prayer, decide to simply sew instead of writing a blog entry.  Maybe I would just give up the idea of working on any other projects and just watch television all day— waste time, just exist. 

Instead, I asked the Father to forgive me.  I determined to write a blog entry.  And I promised myself no more games today.  I want to make that transition from “Mommy’s Girl” to “Abba’s Girl”. 

Serving Jesus, Author of our faith,

“Lady Helene”

 

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